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”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this! ————————————————————————————————————————————It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not manypeople know how to take care of themselves when faced with such asituation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world.THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists inprison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victimand here are some interesting facts:1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braidor other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely togo after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not commontargets.2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for womenwho’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissorsaround to cut clothing.3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching throughtheir purse or doing other activities while walking because they areoff guard and can be easily overpowered.4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at isgrocery store parking lots.5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.6] Number three is public restrooms.7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a womanand quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have toworry about getting caught.8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouragedbecause it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that goingafter you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,orother similar objects that can be used from a distance, in theirhands.10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close tothe attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convincethese guys you’re not worth it.———————————————————————————————————————————-POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage orwith you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and askthem a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Nowthat you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,you lose appeal as a target.2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front ofyou and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked tosaid they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she wouldnot be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASYtarget.3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate ofit and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPERSPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you cando it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist frombehind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow andarmpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class thisguy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who wastrying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skinand tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinchingyourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from aparticularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts itis extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy andmake him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told ourinstructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot oftrouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingersand bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushingdown on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without usingmuch pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles crackedaudibly.7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware ofyour surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see anyodd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feellittle silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy reallywas trouble.——————————————————————————————————————————-FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will besome, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading,forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful inthis crazy world we live in.1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on yourbody. If you are close enough to use it, do it.2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asksfor your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away fromyou…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/orpurse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD INTHE OTHER DIRECTION!3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the backtail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving likecrazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This hassaved lives.4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,working, etc., and just sit(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! Thepredator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity forhim to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tellyou where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, orparking garage:a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may behiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside thepassenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORERIDING A TAXI CAB) .b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from thepassenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pullingthem into their vans while the women are attempting to get into theircars.c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, andthe passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearestyour car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get aguard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFETHAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells arehorrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYSRUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It mayget you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was agood-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathiesof unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and oftenasked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is whenhe abducted his next victim.Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that theworld we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe thansorry.If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW!ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD.So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lu7lwsOJZT1qc1gsio1_250.jpg)
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30 days of thanks dia 4… being single
Yeah sure, it gets a little lonely sometimes. At times, I wish I did have someone to be with. To be there for me. Someone to cuddle at night. But so much more than that I am enjoying the drama free freedom of single hood. I have not been single in years but I have to say this past year has been cool. Interesting. Enlightening. I got to see me. Be me. Find me. And even more important than that I got to spend time with my boys and get to know them. Bond with them. Teach them and guide them. Play with them. Laugh and cry with them. It has been a roller coaster year, and I did not have to worry about a man! LOL
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30 days of thanks- DaY 3
I am thankful for my mother. We have definitely have had our ups and downs throughout my life. She has had her downfalls and so have I. We are so much alike that we clash a lot. But through it all, we always come out on top. I do not know where I would be without her. This woman does whatever she can to help me and her grand kids. She let me and my kids move back home after I split from their father. She helps me with raising her grand kids and with anything else she can offer. Living together is rough. We argue a lot. But she is still my best friend. She was not the best mom when I was growing up. She has more than redeemed herself now. She’s awesome. Thank you mommy! <3
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30 days of thanks… 3 days late (oops lol)
Day 1 and 2- I am beyond incredibly thankful for my 2 sons, Junior and Zavier. Life would not be the same without them. Yes, there is more responsibility involved and I have made an abundance of sacrifices over these last 5 years, but when I look into their eyes and they flash their amazing smiles at me, it is so worth it! I love them so much and I can really say I would do anything for them. That is what I have done thus far. Anything they need, they got it. They are my first priority. Sure, there are days when I think what if I did not have my children yet? What if I could have waited and finished school and had these 2 exact same children after I graduated? Not so much as a regret but just something to think about. But I would not change it. They give me reason to go on when I want to give up. Trust, that happens more often than not. My mission is to ensure that they grow up to be upstanding and respectable gentlemen. I have experienced being a co-parent and now am experiencing single motherhood. It is twice as difficult, but I will not give up! I am so thankful for you babies!!! I love you always and forever too much too much. I love you UNCONDITIONAL. <3
